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A Beginner’s Guide To Using Handcuffs In Bed And Making Things Kinkier

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If I were to ask you what comes to your mind when you hear the word ‘Kinky’, what would be your answer? Not the intelligent, thoughtful answer but the instinctive one, one that almost immediately took you to that category at pornhub that you like to explore. 

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You see, while it is easy and pretty entertaining to explore the category over videos on the internet, it takes a tad bit more effort in real life to actually experience it. And for those of you who don’t know where to start from, I have another word for you – handcuffs.

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That’s right, one of the easiest and funnest ways to introduce a little bit of fun and games in your sex life is by adding a pair of handcuffs to the mix to make things spicier. And if you’re going to be trying them for the first time with your partner, here are a few tips and tricks to keep things interesting.

1) Pick Your Handcuffs Carefully

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A detail that might seem trivial but in reality has a major impact on how strongly you vibe with your partner, depends on you picking the right kind of cuffs. Whether it is a pair of fur handcuffs, sexy enough to entice and soft at the touch or leather ones which scream kinky in CAPS lock, depending on what turns you on and feeds into your BDSM fantasy, take time to decide on which handcuffs you’d like to play with.

2) Temperature Play

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For most people, using handcuffs in sex starts and ends with having sex while one partner is restrained. And while that may be enough to scratch a few peoples’ itch, it certainly isn’t all that there is to it. Use these cuffs to tease and play with your partner. Tie them back to the bedside, and introduce what I like to call is a little ‘temperature play’. 

Pick a cube of ice, put it in your mouth, swirl it long enough and drop it on your partner’s chest. Then, with those cold lips, trace your tongue down their body, enticing and exciting them while they’re bound and can’t stop asking for it. 

3) Position Yourself

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By that I don’t just mean the same old missionary or the cow-girl position. Use the cuffs to explore positions that are complex and erotic. If your partner is a woman, tie her wrists with her corresponding ankles using two pairs of cuffs to make things steamier. From exploring positions like sensual spooning to 69, use the handcuffs in trying out positions that make it hard for you to snap out of. Pun intended.

4) Pick A Safe Word

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Make it a rule for whenever you try to explore BDSM, to not start without first picking a ‘safe word’, which when uttered, should mean instant surrender. A safe word doesn’t just help both partners feel safe in case things go wrong or don’t feel the way you imagined, but it also ensures that no one is hurt in the process. It is advisable to not pick a word that you would normally say during sex, and so one must choose a word that is eccentric enough to make the other person notice. 

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