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We all love the idea of a perfect family but unless you’re part of a Suraj Barjatya movie, you know the idea is a bit far-fetched.
With Father’s Day just around the corner, I got to thinking how not everyone has that “picture perfect” relationship with their dads. I know I don’t.
Like many others, I’ve had my fair share of ups and downs with my father and I know there are quite a few of you who feel the same way.
So here are five things that you’ll relate to if your relationship with your father is full of love as well as flaws.
1. Father’s Day Is Awkward
When someone is trying to rebuild their relationship with their father, Father’s Day celebrations and posts may seem like salt in the wound. More so, when your relationship isn’t in the best space, celebrating Father’s Day with your dad can seem a little daunting to say the least.
2. Hugs, You Want Them, You Need Them!
What is it about Indian dads and distance? Just try giving your dad a casual morning hug and you’ll feel the discomfort and awkwardness that I am talking about. Be it emotional or physical, intimacy with fathers is something I’ve only seen in Bollywood movies. P.S. If you do have that kind of intimacy in real life too, be grateful.
3. Gifts Talk Louder Than Words
Just because most fathers have trouble putting their feelings into words, doesn’t mean they don’t love us. It simply means they make their love known through other ways, like thoughtful actions and gifts.
This can be confusing because gifting is mostly seen as a materialistic custom but remember that different people have different ways of showing affection. Everyone has their own love language.
4. Emotional Conversations Need Strategising
Avoiding difficult emotions and conversations is a natural instinct for most of us. It comes from generations of conditioning and our fathers aren’t immune to that. Even though these things can be difficult, it’s important to have such conversations, be it with our fathers or anyone else.
5. Physical Distance = Emotional Distance
Lastly, if you’re someone who doesn’t live with your dad, it’s going to be even more difficult to develop a tight relationship with him. But hey, don’t give up, teach him how to facetime and stay in touch.
Happy Father’s Day!
In the end, we would just like to add that it’s okay to not have a great relationship with your father. Everyone has their fair share of struggles so this Father’s Day, celebrate your own unique, imperfect relationship with your dad!